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Therapy with
Allison Rivers, ASW
A lot of what hurts in life happens through relationships, the environments we move through, and the ways we learned to survive within them.
And healing can happen there too.
Sometimes the strategies that once helped us stay connected, safe, needed, capable, or emotionally protected no longer fit the life we’re wanting to live now.
Therapy can be a place to understand those patterns with compassion and curiosity, deepen your relationship with yourself, and discover what becomes possible from there.
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Who I Work With
- Adolescents & young adults
- Women (trans inclusive)
- Moms & caregivers
- LGBTQ+ folx
- Members of ACA (Adult Children who grew up with Addiction and in dysfunctional families)
Areas I Often Support
- Anxiety & overwhelm
- Identity & belonging
- Relationships
- Complex PTSD (cPTSD)
- Burnout & caregiving
- Grief & life transitions
- Trauma & nervous system stress
- LGBTQ+ experiences
- Self-worth & relational patterns
My Approach
- Relational
- Trauma-conscious
- Attachment-informed
- Somatic & nervous system aware
- CBT-informed
- Parts-informed
Are the ways you learned to survive keeping you from living the life you want now?
There are reasons you do what you do.
Some of the ways you’ve been coping, relating, protecting yourself, or getting through life may no longer fit.
Maybe you're:
- over-functioning in relationships
- emotionally exhausted
- disconnected from yourself
- stuck in familiar patterns
- pulled between caring for others and caring for yourself
- carrying stress or vigilance that’s become difficult to put down
Many of us learned early to stay alert, emotionally aware of others, highly capable, or disconnected from ourselves to maintain what we thought was connection, stability, or belonging.
Those adaptations helped you survive.
Sometimes the things that once protected us begin to limit us.
The ways we learn to adapt
Relationships can be some of our greatest sources of pain.
And they can also be some of the most powerful places for healing.
You may have learned to:
- stay connected
- protect yourself
- stay needed
- avoid conflict
- carry more than your share
- or become who you needed to be in order to belong
Those messages don’t come only from family.
They also come from culture, relationships, and the systems we move through every day.
Women, caregivers, LGBTQ+ folx, and people navigating systems that weren’t built for them often move through layered expectations about caregiving, emotional labor, belonging, safety, and who they’re allowed to be.
It can be difficult to tell the difference between what’s truly yours and what you’ve learned to carry for others.
Sometimes the things that once protected us begin to limit us.
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What therapy with me feels like
I tend to work in a way that’s thoughtful, engaged, and collaborative rather than distant or detached.
By relational, I mean the connection between us matters.
You don’t have to filter yourself or get it right here.
Therapy can be a place to notice patterns as they’re happening and begin relating to yourself and others differently in a more supported space.
There is room here for humor, grief, anger, uncertainty, relief, contradiction, joy, and all the parts of being human.
How we could work together
In therapy, we might begin to gently uncover what’s been shaping your experience.
Not just what’s happening now, but also:
- what you learned growing up
- what was expected of you
- who you had to become in order to belong, stay safe, or be loved
- how those patterns are still showing up in your relationships and day-to-day life
Part of you may long for something different.
Another part may not feel ready to let go of what has helped you cope.
We can work with both.
Developing a different relationship with yourself
Part of therapy can involve building a more caring, supportive relationship with yourself.
Together, we can begin noticing what you need, responding with greater compassion, and strengthening the parts of you that can offer steadiness during difficult moments.
This can be described as Reparenting or developing an Inner Loving Parent.
What begins to heal
With time and with practice, you may notice:
- feeling more at home in your body
- clearer boundaries and more honest communication
- recognizing patterns without getting pulled into them the same way
- a stronger sense of what feels real for you in relationships
- more compassion for yourself, including the younger parts of you and the parts you once struggled to hold gently
This isn’t about fixing you.
It’s about understanding yourself with more clarity and care and making space for something different.
Therapy approaches I use
My work is informed by:
- attachment and relational perspectives
- somatic (body-based) awareness
- trauma-conscious approaches
- parts-informed work
- nervous system awareness
If you’re someone who likes knowing the formal approaches behind the work, my therapy is also informed by Brainspotting Level I, DBT and CBT-informed tools when useful, and motivational interviewing.
More about the therapy approaches I use
Based in Nevada County, California, I provide virtual therapy for clients across California
Therapy for women (trans inclusive)
Therapy for moms & caregivers
Therapy for teens & young adults
Therapy for LGBTQ+ Folx
Therapy for Adult Children who grew up with Addiction and Dysfunctional Families (ACAs)
If this resonates
You don’t need to be in crisis to begin therapy.
Sometimes therapy starts with noticing that the ways you’ve been surviving no longer feel sustainable or like the life you want to live.
If something here feels familiar, or worth exploring, I’d love to connect.
Schedule a 15-minute ConsultationProfessional Information
Therapy services are provided by Allison Rivers, Registered Associate Clinical Social Worker (ASW #125611), under clinical supervision in accordance with California Board of Behavioral Sciences requirements.